With the state of the world right now, there are lots of changes happening. These times are challenging for a lot of people. Basically, as I see it, the way the world is breaking down. The old model of business, relationships, success are getting outdated. The old model states that to be successful you need to be greedy, manipulate, hoard, control, and compete. The new model is inclusive and that foundation is love. The new model states that we share and help each other thrive. There is enough for everyone. Everyone can be successful and what it looks like is different now. What I am noticing with a lot of men is that they are feeling more challenged right now than women, even though it is challenging for both. Reason being is that we are coming into the age of the empowered woman. The Dalai Lama stated, “The world will be saved by the western woman,” during the 2009 Vancouver Peace Summit. This is not saying that women are taking over, it means that we are coming into our power more and the distribution of power will be more equal. Our inherent nature is to be power with instead of power over. Power over was an idea the old model (patriarchy) came up with. As we now see, this way of being of trying to control, manipulate and use greed can no longer be sustainable and viable in the new model of success, business and relationships.
Our men need us more than EVER before. They don’t know what to do since the old way of success if breaking down. Some feel confused, lost and ungrounded. Women hold relationships together. Woman, also, hold inspiration in the relationship. Also, our nature is to love. We know this because we give birth and have a instinctual nature of nurturing, caring and inspiring others.
What can you do?
- Stop emasculating your husband, brother, co-workers, father, and friends.
- BELIEVE in your man by telling him that you believe in him.
- Support him by saying that you have CONFIDENCE in him.
- Really believe in him and really have confidence. Practice what you preach.
- Give him space to process his struggles. Pressuring him makes him feel ungrounded and not safe to be with you.
- If you emasculate him and pressure him you begin to lose his trust.
- Let him know that you are there for him when he feels ready to talk.
- Send him love whenever he is going through his struggles.
Hope this information serves you well!
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I love this Antoinette. Just reading it I feel so supported by you. We men really do need to feel supported by women, and women need to feel supported by men, and we both need to feel supported by our own genders.
One of your recommendations is for women to stop emasculating the men in their lives. Can you give some examples of ways that women sometimes do this?
Wonderful post, Antoinette. Too much is written about the differences between men and women and not enough about how we can be true partners. Thank you for filling this very important void.
On that theme, I would be interested to hear your opinion on they way men can be more supportive of the women in our lives as well.
As a quick response to Ryan’s question, women emasculate men by putting them down, not listening to them while they are speaking their needs, heart’s desires or interests, making fun of them, bossing them around, complaining about what they are not doing instead of what they are not doing, and most of all not believing in them.
Something that is great for women to participate in is seeing the beauty and perfection of men. I see many women who see men as less than, and I have done the same in the past.
When I have shifted my energy, men have responded to me differently. They have seen me as their ally and someone they can confide in, trust, support and be on the same team.
As we continue to create evolved relationships, women and men will be able to support each other in healthy ways and understand that men and women are different, but truly complementary.
Hope this enlightens you, and have a beautiful day!
This is so true…you know i was recently trying to express this similar thing to my lovely woman. We need to be supported and believed in … you give us our inspiration, and sometimes, our reason for being the successful manly men we need to be…! ; )
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