Our ideas of love are changing and shifting, just like the world around us.  What we thought was love and our ideas of relationships need to change in order for us to grow and evolve as human beings.

Most people’s ideas of love is coming from an immature or old model approach.  This looks like needing to be loved by another, expecting that this person shows up in the way that you want them to, trying to control or manipulate the other in order to get what you think you want, and not being honest to the other because you are not being honest with yourself.

When people fall in love, they get the butterflies in their stomach from the excitement, but as love continues it brings up your “stuff”.  You can either embrace it and love it, or as most people their “stuff” is what is learned as a child.  These are ways of control, manipulation, and bartering for love.  Most people end up feeling confined in the relationship.  The reason being is because the soul is free.  Whatever is going to stifle the spirit is going to make the other do what ever it can to get the “hell” out.  From a higher perspective, when the other does something that you may think is unfair, there is a gift in disguise.

These are ways to create healthy relationship.

1. Honor and love yourself as the foundation of any relationship.
2. Get to know yourself, inside and out.
3. Have a healthy relationship with your feelings.
4. Start to examine where your ideas of love stem from.
5. Understand that relationships are a spiritual path on its own.  They offer you a change to grow and expand old ideas of who you are.
6. See what ideas serve you and throw the others away.

Hope this serves you and have a beautiful day!

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