Dating, Relationships, Women

What’s The Attraction? A Relationship Truth

0 Comments 10 April 2012

“I really thought this one was different.” How many times have you heard that from a friend or said it yourself? His looks were intriguing, he had a dissimilar type of job and, for awhile, treated you differently; but, the reality was the relationship ended pretty much the same as the last one, or two, or three. So, what is going on? Why do you keep choosing the same man over and over again even though you have made a conscious effort not to.

 

The one common denominator is you! In order to change the result something in the formula has to be modified. In order to rewrite the ending, start with a new beginning. The one thing proven over and over again is that we are unable to change anyone but ourselves. That eliminates the other person in the relationship, so working on the main character is the only choice left. I am not speaking about losing weight, cutting your hair or any other physical trivialities. I am talking about changing what really counts; the limiting self beliefs you carry inside yourself.

 

You attract the feelings, attitudes and beliefs you hold about yourself. If you are wanting a long lasting, connected relationship but feel as if you don’t deserve it; or that you will never have one because nobody in your family ever committed to anything for long; you are sabotaging any union before it begins. The people coming into your life are sensing -at an energetic level- the hesitations you have. Working at understanding any limiting beliefs you hold around yourself and choosing to release them will activate new energy resulting in a renewed attitude and a fresh perspective around your relationships.

 

It takes some inner strength to really look at yourself, but once you do the results are well worth it. One important thing to remember is that there is nothing wrong with you or the men you attract. Life lessons come in all forms as do the teachers of them.

 

When I was newly married years ago, I had very low self esteem which was reflected within my relationship with my husband. His treatment of me was echoic of how I felt about myself. Making inner changes gave me the strength to leave him. This resilience led to interesting consequences as we did resume our relationship some months later, same two players but with different attitudes. The relationship became one of balance, trust and interestingly, independence as we each came to realize we were two different people contributing to a marriage; not two people trying to make a marriage work.

 

Looking deep inside yourself, you can find those preconceived beliefs which are creating relationship issues. When you do, be sure to eliminate all those beliefs which are not serving a useful purpose but treasure those which make you the beautiful person you are inside.

 

M.J. Domet

 

Marilyn Dometraschuk, known in the literary world as M.J. Domet, is the owner and founder of The Gemini Potential, a company that focuses on personal development, by providing counselling services, seminars, and workshops. She is the winner of the Ashford Radio 2012 Inspirational Author of the Year Award.

Marilyn offers an array of products and services which includes Deep Healing Emotional Energy, Reiki, and Face Reading. She has several workshops ranging from her various classes, along with presentations and seminars on spiritual and self empowerment topics. Her primary goal is to assist people in reaching their potential at all levels and live limitlessly with passion and purpose. Her book, Waves of Blue Light: Heal The Heart and Free the Soul, is helping people gain a new perspective on their lives.

 

MJ Domet Contact:

www.expecttobeempowered.com

 

expecttobeempowered@gmail.com

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Dating, Relationships, Women

Healing Our Unresolved Hurts

0 Comments 06 April 2012

What we see, feel and experience determine our relationships with other people. It also impacts our self-image, how we feel about ourselves. As we learn to love and value ourselves, we attract people who value who we are. When we don’t love ourselves, we will attract those who are unable to give us the love we deserve. Some of the reasons we have a problem loving ourselves can be traced back to unresolved issues of our past that caused emotional wounds.

 

Every little girls dream is to be called, “Princess” by her father. A father is the one who helps his daughter develop a healthy self-image. A father provides affirmation, acceptance and value.

They help us develop an awareness of being wanted, accepted, cared for, adored and loved. A father also teaches us how to relate to the opposite sex. However, when we don’t feel this sense of belonging there is an empty space created within our hearts.

 

These unmet emotional needs can create father wounds. These open wounds produce deep emotional pain. Oftentimes, to fulfill our needs we venture out early in life looking for love, sometimes we search in all the wrong places and find our hearts broken time and time again.

 

Another unresolved wound that causes women to attract relationships with the same kind of men is childhood sexual abuse. Many women have experienced sexual abuse, molestation, rape and incest by the hands of someone they should have been able to trust.  As a result of shame, guilt, depression, fear and anxiety many victims suffer in silence. All too often we learn how to sweep issues under the rug and pray that the scars of the abuse will go away, with time.

 

Unfortunately, as time goes on the wounds become even more infected. Truth of the matter is covered wounds don’t heal. Time doesn’t heal wounds. Our inner brokenness makes us unable to discern what’s healthy and what’s not. Unresolved hurts damages our self-esteem and leaves us at-risk. We learn to tolerate mistreatment, cheaters and beaters just to have a man.

 

In order to be able to attract a man who is whole within himself we need to be whole. Therapy, counseling or coaching can help you work through these issues. When your life has been shattered by heartache, pain and suffering you lose something- yourself.  When you don’t know who you are, you become somebody else only to end up hating who you have become.

The good new is, though we can’t go back and change our past we take charge of our future. We can be restored. We can rebuild.  We recover what we have lost.

Biography of Rev. Patrina M Wright

Rev. Patrina Wright is a temperament counselor, author, motivational speaker, abuse prevention specialist and healing coach. She is the author of “Still Scarred, Totally Healed: Opening Your Heart and Mind to God’s Healing of Past Hurts” and “The Exodus Breaking Cycles and Changing Lives: Repositioning Your Soul To Thrive After Domestic Violence”.  Rev. Wright is also the producer and host of a talk show called, Restore, Recover, Rebuild. Through her nonprofit organization she offers resources and training seminars to help pastors and other organizations effectively provide help, hope and healing to families dealing with abuse. She is also the founder of Beyond the Abuse Ministries, a healing ministry focused on helping people experience recovery and wholeness through conferences, retreats and personal coaching.

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